cupid missed

Interesting news story that I found this week. Not wanting to hurt feelings unnecessarily, I’m going to go ahead and say the truth about what I think. This is the story here — about Manuel Uribe, of Mexico City, who once weighed 1,235 pounds, and has recently lost 440 pounds (still weighs 800) was going out on a date, on his bed and accidents happened and he was unable to make it. Read it here, or here on MSN, or here in US Today.

Now, I think it is great that this man has overcome so much. That he knew he was overweight, that he kept that positive attitude that he could accomplish what he wanted to. Sought help, is loosing weight, has doctors and friends around him to support him and all. I think it is great. I’d like to see him succeed.

I read the story, I thought it sad that he couldn’t make his celebratory date with his girlfriend, and it made me happy that he is working towards his goals.

However…. afterwards things about it began to bother me. Read the rest of this entry »

Came across an interesting little short webpage about French Kissing today. It isn’t the most informative thing about french kissing that I imagine could be available (I mean, there is porno, which leaves nothing to the imagination! There probably can be more graphic descriptions of French Kissing!).

The reason I’m posting about it is that I found it funny that it mentions to not take hold of your brand new girl and give her a “French Kiss” for that first kiss.

You want that first kiss to always be remembered, right? hehe

Today I’m a little bummed, you know, those times when it seems like nothing goes right? And so I’m poking at the computer, tv shows have gone off, its windy and cold outside, too early for bed… and the computer is here. Hmmm… what sort of mischief can I get into?

Of course there’s a couple of pictures, and then eventually I end up on one of the dating sites looking at who might be out there. And occasionally I hit up some of the free services just for the hell of it. Today I spent a little time looking at Craig’s List. For those of you who don’t know, Craigslist is a website that is basically a free classified ad service. Post your car for sale, find jobs, and personals are there too…

This one, though, today, just really made me chuckle.

It’s sad when people you know, became people you knew…

And when you can walk right past someone that at one part in your life was a big part of your life…

And how you used to be able to talk to them for hours about the little nothings in life…and now you can barely look at them….

It’s funny how many people have posted this. Guess we’re all in the same boat, missing someone.. be honest…if you really miss someone, a friend, a love, or a family member right now…& can’t get them off your mind…then repost this titled as “I miss you…”. Within 1 minute whoever you are missing will surprise you. If you break this you will have the worst love life starting in 1 hour

Ah… well it is kind of interesting concept … that we shouldn’t let friends go by and become”used to knows”. But kind of ludicrous that not posting this again I’ll have the worst love life an hour from now. Frankly, an hour from now I’ll be asleep - and things can’t get much worse! Enjoy the little quote above, and if you feel gullible, post it somewhere.

I’ve never been a big fan of horoscopes. In my opinion it is stupid to let something else control whether you do something one day or not, depending on what someone’s opinion of what star formations are doing in the sky.

However, I’ve recently subscribed myself to a dating horoscope. It comes in the email daily and it is kind of silly itself. But, what I do with it is something different.

I’ll take the daily horoscope and use it to sit there and make me think. It may say something like that there is a cute someone that I’ll meet today and I should get ready for a hot date. Well, I use that to remind myself how important it is to be open to meeting new people. Not that I’m expecting to meet that hot/cute someone today, but that in general it is always a better idea to be open and prepared and willing to meet new people. I will not get hung up over what does or doesn’t happen just because it hasn’t been in my horoscope for the day. I believe this is good because so often there are things that happen and we are busy in life and we tend to forget the little basics. And I’ve found that reading the horoscope each morning, and taking the time to think about exactly it means (without accepting the suggestions or setting expectations) it tends to keep me grounded more.

And that’s a good thing!

What do you think?

Stumbled across this interesting little article in a health website, Yahoo’s Health (actually Men’s Health) and it talked about how flirting is good for relationships!

It’s Dave Zinczenko’s Mysteries of the Sexes Explained, and called: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship.

Basically he says that flirting is good for you. But you have to be careful to take that energy and good that you get from the flirting and put it back into your real relationship. Not to go off on some chase for that cute guy or girl you flirt with on occasion.

How’s it work? He essentially tells you that flirting gives you confidence. We all know that confidence is eroded everyday. Why because of us here knowing that Cupid has missed, there are times when confidence seems non-existent. So even if you aren’t confident, you can feel it!

Second, he says it builds up sexual energy. That anticipation, tease, and fantasy can get you wound up - perfect for a great night at home.

And it also keeps you sharp. You will keep yourself on top of your game and mentally sharp and aware of the sexual side of life. And maybe you’ll be lucky and never enter the dating scene again (happily hooked) but if you do, your skills will be sharp.

And I’ll second his word of caution. Don’t let the flirting turn into something that will destroy your existing relationship. If you don’t have one, such as my case, then I caution me to try and not destroy someone else’s good thing!

More from Dave can be found by clicking here, where they have reprinted a bit of one of his articles about the differences between flirting & cheating.

I love this week … between Christmas and New Year’s. There is the opportunity to go to work - but not really to have to do any work. There’s chances to socialize with the few other people in the office - and hopefully that cutie you haven’t gotten around to much is in!

But the problem is, that no one really has a good schedule. Its kind of hard to contact your friends. And the friends who were so busy making Christmas plans may make some New Year’s plans and exclude you. That would suck! So, take a little initiative and bring yourself back into their picture. If you don’t hear anything from them, then give them a call and just chat a while. Don’t invite yourself to whatever they’ve got going on, but make sure your remembered!

Enjoy the parties!

This time of year is a great time to score invitations to parties. It is also a great time to meet new people! So don’t just sit at home and sulk, ask around — find as many parties and events to go to as you possibly can and go. Suck it up, swallow your pride, and go. Enjoy yourself.

There are few things more appealing that someone who truly enjoys themselves and has a great time, whether they have a date or not! Be that guy or girl!

It’s almost weekend, and like many of us, you probably have a few rules of thumb that you live by. One is probably that you don’t call and invite anyone out after a certain part of the week, say Wednesday. Well, here it is, almost weekend, and you either haven’t been asked out or haven’t made that call yet.

Don’t despair. Sometimes rules, and especially rules of thumb, are made to be broken. If you wanted to call but forgot, go ahead and make a call, but be flexible, if she’s already got plans for the weekend, you can always score points by planning towards the next weekend. And if you get any invitations, why not consider taking them? Spur of the moment things and get togethers are also great, and especially for us singles, we control our schedules and can go and do as we please at the drop of a hat. Because you can, don’t let silly little preconceived rules get in the way. Enjoy yourself!

And guys. If you have a girl in mind, but didn’t call already… what’s wrong with you? Nervous? Perhaps knowing a little more about how to use the powers you already posses towards attracting women would be a good thing. Invest a little in yourself and try one of the online courses about dating. This one is a great little course!

You’ve just endured the holidays, Thanksgiving - alone. Or maybe you were taken to see your lover’s parents. Maybe you have no one. Regardless, at this time of year when you’ve probably spent a considerable amount of time by yourself over this long weekend, you sometimes hear that little voice in the back of your head question whether you can go on living a single life without someone special there for you waiting at home every day.

Think that being married would be better?

Well, listen to Amy Winehouse. She’s cancelled the remaining 2007 tour dates because she can’t go on without her husband by her side. Read it here.

Are you that needy? Do you always need to be around others? Are you good at spending time with yourself? Truth be told, if you can’t be alone what does that say about you - does it say that maybe you don’t like yourself? If you don’t like yourself, how do you ever persuade anyone else that your likeable? Yeah being sexy helps, but once the lust wears off what is left is that’s all your relationship is built upon. Why not take a little time and learn to enjoy being yourself and being around yourself?

So, according to ars technica and Slashdot there is some proposed legislation in New Jersey called the Internet Dating Safety Act. And I agree with them. Yeah, it is a good idea to work on getting online dating safer. But, this one really doesn’t do anything right. There are better ways. I’m kind of dumb, so I can’t suggest anything creative or constructive. All I’ll do here is bash the proposed law.

And I don’t live in New Jersey!